Silence can be wonderful! And what’s the best toy to make your hubby shut up: Correct, a (red) ball gag. In this blog post, I will tell you how to use a ball gag, why I love to put it on my hubby, and why I prefer a red ball gag above others.
What’s A Ball Gag, And How To Use It?
As shown in the image below, a ball gag is a very simple toy. Usually, it consists of a ball and a strap — that’s all. Moreover, the usage is straightforward too. The sub puts the ball in his mouth, and the strap is tightened at the back of his head.
Once fixed, all the sub can do is moan. No more talking, no more screaming, no more begging.
Why I Love (Red) Ball Gags
Regardless of the color, ball gags have become a classic toy I use in our femdom sessions. For me, a ball gag symbolizes power — the power of the person who doesn’t wear the gag. The one who wears the ball gag is no longer allowed to talk — he has nothing to say. All he has to do is to listen and to follow.
Therefore, and similar to many other toys we use, the real effect is on the psychological level. And we both love it. On top of that, it is also about the feeling when putting the ball gag on and while wearing it. My hubby always tells me that he gets a very strong submissive feeling when ordered to wear a gag.
On the other side, my level of dominance grows even further once the hubby wears the gag.
Why I prefer Red Ball Gags
Still, the question is: Why do I prefer red ball gags over normal black? Actually, there is no straightforward answer. One aspect is that a red ball gag looks more feminine. As a result, it humiliates my hubby even more. If you search for red ball gags you will find mainly female photos like the one below:
Therefore, I usually combine the ball gag with some verbal humiliation, like “Can you please go and get your lady ball gag?” (this is only the soft part lol).
On top of that, I think a red ball gag simply looks better on my hubby 🙂
How We Use It?
Actually, I don’t have a specific femdom game that is only about the ball gag. On the contrary, I use the toy to spice up other things. In fact, I use the gag in combination with some CFNM play, handjobs, worshipping, and many other things.
I also use it to make clear that today’s session is a strict one — I don’t allow talking; I just want him to follow my instructions and do as he is told.
Therefore, the gag is like a multiplier that adds to other femdom games and toys.
Why Should You Try It?
Although a red ball gag can be a very intense toy, it is also a good beginner’s femdom idea. It lets you explore femdom and the sexual part of a female-led relationship easily. On top of that, ball gags are rather cheap, so you can try with low risk.
If you want to give it a try, you should check out my favorite red ball gag on Stockroom.com 🙂 I promise you will love it!)
