To all the guys who are reading this blog post: You have to be very strong today because I am about to get mean. Yes, today’s femdom idea is all about a ruined orgasm. And I know this can be more painful than physical pain and more frustrating than anything else. Probably that’s why I love it that much 🙂
Ruined Orgasm — What is it about?
Okay, before we dive into the mean games you can play with ruined orgasms, let’s quickly introduce this femdom technique in case you are unfamiliar with it. Actually, there are two basic variations of ruined orgasms. Both are explained pretty easily.
No more stimulation
The first type of a ruined orgasm is to bring the man as close as possible to an orgasm until he reaches the point-of-no-return. At that point, you suddenly stop any stimulation. There’s no touching anymore, nothing. By doing so the man will have kind of a cumshot but won’t feel any relieve.
No stopping
The other version is basically the opposite. You simply don’t stop stimulating him. Let’s say you give your man a handjob. Once he cums you simply continue to jerk him. And even better, you increase the speed. That leads to the result, that he doesn’t enjoy the orgasm but feels pure pain and frustration.
How We Enjoy Ruined Orgasm
Personally, we prefer the first version. Although we tried the “no-stopping” variation, I found out that the abprubt stimulation stop is much more powerful for me and frustrating for him.
During the last years, we (or at least I) enjoyed many ruined orgasms. I usually practice it to basically milk him when he is locked in chastity but don’t want him to enjoy a real orgasm. Here’s how I usually ruin his orgasms:
Basic handjob
Probably the most basic form is to give him a handjob and ruin his orgams in the end. Accordingly, I unlock Max from time to time, give him a handjob, ruin his orgams, and lock him back up.
Tease & Denial & Edging
Sometimes I want to give him so more “pleasure.” That’s when I tease and edge him for longer period like an hour or even more. Sometimes with toys, sometimes with my hand, and —if he behaved really well— with my pussy. However, the result is the same: a ruined orgasm. I guess in this case, the frustration is even higher.
Multiple ruins
The funnny thing is, that a man can have multiple ruined orgasms. So I ruin his orgasm, wait a couple of minutes and start all over again. Logically, the frustration grows with every ruin.
Self-Ruined (Advanced Mode)
Here’s comes an advanced technique. Sometimes, when I feel lazy, I let him stroke his cock but command him to stop when he is about to cum. As a result, he ruins his own orgasm. This needs some training because it’s really hard for men to stop and don’t continue to jerk.
Chastity Ruined (Expert Mode)
And here’s the our ultimate technique. Instead of taking of his chastity cage I use a vibrating toy to stimulate his balls and prostate. Since his cock can’t get hard he has an orgasm and is far away from any relieve. However, this technique needs some training again.
Things To Keep In Mind!
Ruining an orgasm is super frustrating for him. As I mentioned initially, it can be more painful than physical pain. Therefore, you should be very conscious and use this technique responsibly. Otherwise it will drive your hubby crazy!!
What’s Your Opinion?
Have you ruined your hubbys orgasm? Or has someone ruined your orgasm? Tell us about it. How did you do it? What did you like? Just leave us a comment. We are always happy to hear from you and get inspired too!
Much love,
Julia
