Today we discuss one of my all-time favorite femdom techniques: Orgasm Denial. It is something we’ve started to explore very early and intensified constantly. I will give you some “theoretical background” about orgasm denial first. Afterward, I will give you some insights into my orgasm denial games and how they have evolved during the last few years.
What is Orgasm Denial?
Orgasm denial represents the tantalizing act of driving your partner to the brink of orgasm, only to be pulled back before reaching the edge of pleasure. As you can imagine, this erotic practice often features dominant/submissive relationships, but it can also be incorporated into any sensual scenario to intensify pleasure.
“Within the realm of orgasm denial fantasies, one partner typically assumes the dominant role, controlling the submissive partner’s orgasm. The submissive grants the dominant the power to regulate his or her climax,” explains Lia Holmgren, a seasoned intimacy expert and relationship coach.
If you find the idea of power dynamics appealing, orgasm denial could be an exciting starting point. It involves surrendering yourself to your partner and trusting them with your body and sexual journey. In some circles, orgasm denial is referred to as ‘Edging,’ but the term ‘orgasm denial’ adds an additional layer of tantalizing kink to the act.
Why do we Practice Orgasm Denial?
This can be answered quickly: Because I see it as an essential part of our female-led relationship. I took over the decision and the responsibility at the same to decide when my hubby is allowed to have an orgasm. Period.
Nevertheless, there are some more aspects involved:
- Not being allowed to have an orgasm for a long time changes how your husband acts completely. He will become courteous and caring and spoil you as much as possible. This sounds very selfish, but actually it isn’t — simply because my husband enjoys this too. He can concentrate on me and care for me and my orgasms.
- It spices things up! Hubby never knows when the time has come that he is allowed to cum again. So it can be really teasing and exciting for him — especially when we are in the bedroom.
- And it also benefits him: Being denied for a longer time intensifies his orgasm tremendously. So I basically help him to choose quality over quantity 🙂
How do we Practice Orgasm Denial?
Similar to many other femdom techniques, we started softly. At that time, I just told him that he is not allowed or I didn’t want him to cum while we had sex. The first time I did that, he was turned on so much that he came the second after — lol.
Since I quickly recognized that he was turned on by the fact that I determined his orgasms, we climbed the next level quickly. At that point, I told him I didn’t want him to cum at any time without my permission: while we were having sex but also when he wanted to jerk off.
Naturally, this didn’t work since he couldn’t stop to jerk off. Therefore, the next logical step was to use a chastity cage. Unsurprisingly, my husband agreed to that immediately since it really helped him to concentrate on me even more.
Accordingly, the chastity cage is my device of choice when it comes to orgasm denial. And it’s totally up to me when I release him — that’s an immense power but also a responsibility I take very serious.
Much love,
Julia
Let Me Know Your Thoughts!
I love to get your feedback and inspiration. Leave a comment and tell me your thoughts about orgasm denial. Do you practice it? What’s the thing you enjoy most? How did it start? I want to know everything 🙂
