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Femdom Toys: 9 Essential Must-Haves You Should Try

During the last weeks, I received many messages asking about femdom toys in general and my preferred toys in particular. That’s why I thought creating an entire blog post about this topic was a good idea. In the following paragraphs, you will find my 10 essential femdom toys.

I do hope you like the selection and can get some inspiration from it. However, as always, remember that preferences are different. Always make sure to talk to each other and discuss which toys you want to use.

Essential Femdom Toys #1 — Ball Gags

Let’s start with some rather softcore stuff. From my point of view, a ball gag is the perfect beginner toy. So, if you’ve just started to explore the world of female domination and started to discover femdom toys, this one is for you.

You can even integrate it in your “normal” sex. However, you will quickly recognize that this small toy is amazing when it comes to putting the man in a submissive role. As soon as he puts on the ball gag, he will start acting differently — and on the other side, you can start acting more dominant.

Essential Femdom Toy #2 Strap-On

Let’s move from the beginner toy to a more expert toy. If you and your man are into pegging, you should, of course, have a strap-on. This is definitely one of our favorite femdom toys, and we enjoy it quite often. Especially when he is in chastity, getting pegged with a strap-on is a way he can get some pleasure. On the other side, it’s an amazing feeling of power for the woman.

Nevertheless, worth mentioning that not every man is into pegging. Therefore, it is important to talk about trying such a toy before actually using it.

Oh, here’s a pro tip: If your man does not like anal sex, you can still use the strap-on. Why? Well, think about some blowjob lessons for your man. This can be some humiliating 🙂

Essential Femdom Toys #3 Fleshlight

This one might seem confusing at first. A fleshlight is usually a toy men use to get pleasure. So why should you use it as a femdom toy?

As always, it is all about the context. And in fact, the Fleshlight has become one of the femdom toys we use regularly. There are two “use cases” for us. First of all, I use it as a toy to humiliate my man. I let him fuck the Fleshlight while telling him that this is the only pussy he is allowed to have. He is not allowed to sleep with, doesn’t get a blowjob, or anything else — just the Fleshlight.

On top of that, I use the fleshlight in our tease and denial games to spice things up. That means he is only allowed to fuck the fleshlight but is not even allowed to cum. I can tell you: I love it 🙂

Essential Femdom Toy #4 Penis Sleeve

Oh yes, here’s another one I’ve started to enjoy lately. Especially because there are many ways to integrate this femdom toy into your sex. With a penis sleeve, you can achieve two things: First, you can have sex with a much bigger cock (if you want to). And second, he will have sex but will feel almost nothing. On top of that, you can perfectly use it for some small penis humiliation games.

One way I use it is by combining it with the fleshlight — to make this even more humiliating. But you can of course, also integrate it into your normal sex life.

Essential Femdom Toy #5 Chastity Cage

If you follow my blog, you will know that chastity cages are one of my preferred femdom toys. A chastity cage gives you the ultimate power and is probably the most dominant toy of all.

Of course, it is up to you how to use it. Putting the man into long-term chastity isn’t something everyone is looking for. However, you could just put on the cage and tell your man to pleasure you. I can promise you he will perform much better.

Essential Femdom Toy #5 Chastity Cage

Essential Femdom Toy #6 Paddle

I guess there’s not much explanation needed when it comes to paddles. Obviously, it is one of the most famous femdom toys.

Personally, I am not the biggest fan of it and use it only rarely. However, that’s probably because my husband prefers humiliation and teasing much more than physical pain — at least in most cases.

Essential Femdom Toy #6 Paddle

Essential Femdom Toys #7 Bondage Utilities

When it comes to bondage, the amount of femdom toys is endless. Although it is a common toy and technique, we don’t use it often. But once again, it is, of course, up to your preferences.

Essential Femdom Toys #7 Bondage Utilities

Essential Femdom Toys #8 Face Dildo

Oh yes, now I’m getting excited again. Here’s probably a lesser know femdom toy. But it is just an incredible toy.

Again you can use it in several ways:

  • Spice up your facesitting sessions and make it even more intense
  • Let your man fuck you with the face dildo in different positions
  • Give the dildo a blowjob to show your man what he is missing
  • And so much more 🙂

Essential Femdom Toys #9 Collar & Leash

Essential Femdom Toys #9 Collar & Leash

Similar to the ball gag, I consider collars & leashes as beginner’s toys. However, that doesn’t mean I don’t like them. Actually, we use it quite often because you should never underestimate the power of a collar 🙂

What are your favorite femdom toys?

We are always interested in your thoughts, preferences, and feedback. Write a comment and tell us about your favorite toys.

Much love,
Julia

Julia FLR
Julia FLR
My name is Julia, and I am excited that you found your way to my blog. I live the lifestyle of a female-led relationship together with my hubby Max. On this blog, I share my experience, stories, and more. However, this blog is not solely focused on FLR. You will find tons of sex toy reviews and much other stuff — basically, everything I am interested in. Enjoy your stay. Much love, Julia.

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