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Femdom Ideas: 13 Practices To Get You Inspired

During the last few years, our relationship has steadily been involved. Moreover, since we’ve started to explore the world of femdom and female-led relationships, we have constantly searched for new femdom ideas we could integrate into our sex life.

With this blog post, we want to share some of the femdom ideas we discovered and don’t want to miss anymore. However, please keep in mind that tastes are different, and relationships are other.

Accordingly, not everything we like and try is right for you. Moreover, and most importantly, you should always discuss as a couple what you want to try and what not. Even in a femdom relationship, it is essential to get a feeling of what each partner wants and what they feel good with.

Let’s dive into our 12 femdom ideas we discovered and don’t want to miss anymore!

Femdom Ideas #1 — Facesitting

Let’s start with a soft one 🙂 Facesitting is a sex technique that also “normal” couple practice. However, there is, of course, a difference between, let’s call it, vanilla facesitting and some advanced femdom facesitting. Here are some ideas:

  • The wife doesn’t touch him while facesitting — it’s all about her pleasure.
  • The man is not allowed to touch himself but has to stay completely naked.
  • The man has to wear a chastity belt while being facesit.
  • The wife can do some CBT (see below) while facesitting him.
  • And so on 🙂

From our point of view, facesitting is a perfect technique. However, you can also use it to enter the femdom world and then, step-by-step, intensify your facesitting.

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Femdom Ideas #2 – #4 — Worshipping

Worshipping the woman should be an essential part of every femdom or female-led relationship. Of course, there are plenty of ways how to worship — here are the most important ones:

Foot Worship

Before Max and I started to explore the world of a female-led relationship and search for femdom ideas, we were not interested in foot worship that much. Actually, I never thought about it, and Max didn’t identify himself as a foot guy.

However, that changed rapidly when we with orgasm control and chastity, it was interesting to hear that Max, since he was not allowed to have sex with me and did not get any other relief, has started to get attracted by other body parts than previously.

Of course, previously, it was all about tits, ass, and pussy. But all of a sudden, Max complimented my legs, feet, and even armpits. Once, when massaging my feet, he asked if he could kiss them too. From that point, it all evolved very quickly, and today feet worshipping in various forms is an essential part of our sex life.

Pussy Worship

Pussy worshipping is one of my favorite femdom ideas. Since Max is rarely allowed to take off his cage and has to take care of my pussy in other ways. In this context, I suggest reading one of my previous blog posts about Pussy Worship: 10 Tips for Worshipping & Pleasing Your Wife. It provides you with everything you need to know about pussy worshipping.

Ass Worship

Besides the pussy there’s also the backdoor. However, I know that not every woman is into that. Personally, I do love to get licked, massaged, and worshipped at the backdoor. Moreover, letting him worship your ass is undoubtedly much more humiliating for him.

Femdom Ideas #5 — Orgasm Control / Chastity

Ah yes, one of my favorite femdom ideas: Orgasm control and chastity. If you want a working femdom relationship, you should integrate it into your life. You don’t have to start with a chastity device if you believe it is too heavy, but it definitely recommends it (see here: Is Chastity A Must In Female-Led Relationships?).

Orgasm control is that tool that puts you in control. On top of that, you can combine this technique with almost every other femdom idea we discuss in this blog. Think of it like a multiplier that intensifies the other ideas but a factor of 100. So everything will be more intense for him and you.

Femdom Ideas #6 — Cock & Ball Torture (CBT)

I know this one sounds heavy — torture! But no worries, it is up to you how to play it. You can easily integrate many soft ways of CBT into your sex life. Let’s take the facesitting example from the beginning. Think about you sitting on top of him and instead of touching his cock you can grab, spank, and squeeze his balls. Based on his reaction, you will quickly notice if you can go harder — or not. As always, there’s a significant psychological aspect involved: While you are getting worshiped, you don’t even pay attention to his cock but only his balls in a slightly sadistic way. But I promise you that he’ll love it.

Of course, you can go harder. CBT goes from light to very hard. You can use toys to intensify it. But ultimately, it is up to you and your man.

Femdom Idea #7 — Sissy Play

Sissy Play describes the practice where the man wears a woman’s clothes or gets transformed completely (makeup, lipstick, etc.). It took us very look until we discovered this play, mainly because Max was much into it. Moreover, we don’t play in a heavy way where Max has to wear a maid’s dress or something like that.

Again (similar to the foot thing), it came with the chastity belt. Max became increasingly interested in my panties after being locked and not allowed to touch me for a couple of weeks. He started to smell them and lick them. I let him do that because I really love his desperation. At one point, he asked if he could wear one of my used panties which I allowed. On top of that, the next time I unlocked him, I made him wear panties and let him jerk off right into the panties (check femdom idea #9 if you want to know what happened next 🙂

Since then, we have integrated some lite sissy play stuff into our sex life.

Femdom Idea #8 — Tease & Denial

Tease and denial go hand in hand with orgasm control and chastity. It’s just amazing to tease him but don’t let him reach his final relief 🙂 There are plenty of ways how you can play tease and denial. And remember, this is not necessarily about giving him a handjob but not letting him cum. Teasing all works visually. Let him see you naked, let him worship you — and at all times, tell him that he is not allowed to cum.

Femdom Idea #9 — Cum Eating

Alright, this one is strong. Moreover, many men will tell you not to do it. Nevertheless, we discovered cum eating as one of the hottest and most humiliating femdom ideas ever. Important: Although I have sex with other men, Max only eats his own cum. But again, it depends on how you want to play it.

When it is about his cum, I love to give him instructions and humiliate him. Lately, he is usually allowed to cum on my feet or leg and then required to clean it all off. You can even combine it with some rewarding stuff: For example, let him cum on your tits — so he gets the pleasure of licking your tits while eating his cum.

Femdom Idea #10 — Hotwifing / Cuckolding

Hotwifing and cuckolding are certainly some of the most prominent femdom ideas. There are tons of videos, and the pron industry is pushing this trend heavily. Although we like the idea, I want to clarify that you should be very careful about this. Please don’t rush into it. Give it time to develop and start slowly. Going down this road can entirely change your relationship — positively and negatively.

Femdom Ideas #11 — Anal Play & Pegging

Again, when talking about anal play, we have a vast spectrum of femdom ideas. You can start soft with some butt plugs and intensify the game with some heavy petting. But, once again, it is impressive if you combine this idea with others, like wearing a chastity cage while getting pegged.

Femdom Idea #12 — Verbal Humiliation

Totally underrated, but one of the most vital ideas! At this point, I’m not talking about screaming at your man, telling him he is a bitch, etc. On the contrary, I’m talking about subtle humiliating talk in the bedroom and during the day. And (for us), this does not have to be nasty. Simple things, like reminding him that he is not allowed to cum or how much you love to have a husband you can peg can be super strong and drive him crazy (me obviously, too 🙂

Femdom Idea #13 — DIY Femdom Ideas

Finally, it is really up to you to create a new idea. The world of femdom and female-led relationships is enormous. That’s why you should not solely look at what the porn industry is creating but follow your needs and ideas.

Create small ideas that spice up your (sex) life and ideally trigger you and your man (or vice versa).

To give you just one example of things we established (and there are dozens of them, maybe I will do a blog post about it): Usually, you have a wife who is required to shave between the legs and a man who doesn’t care. We turned it around. One day, I told him that I wanted his cock and balls super clean. At the same time, I said to him that I would grow a bush. This subtle thing holds so much power in it. He has to follow my rules, and at the same time, he has to accept that his wife is in control. Very often, it’s these little things that spice up our life.

Let Us Know Your Thoughts

What are your ideas? Which practices did you integrate into your relationship? We’re happy to hear your thoughts! So let us know in the comments!

Julia FLR
Julia FLR
My name is Julia, and I am excited that you found your way to my blog. I live the lifestyle of a female-led relationship together with my hubby Max. On this blog, I share my experience, stories, and more. However, this blog is not solely focused on FLR. You will find tons of sex toy reviews and much other stuff — basically, everything I am interested in. Enjoy your stay. Much love, Julia.

2 comments

  • i want my wife to cuckold me with my best friend, but am afraid to tell her. what do I do?

    1. Hi Tyler,

      Thank you very much for your comment and being that frank about your desire.
      Involving your best friend is definitely something you should think about twice.

      Why not get it started slowly? Talk with her and tell her that it turns you on when you think about her and other men.
      Her reaction will quickly tell you if this is something she’s up to — or not.

      If you have the feeling that she’s interested you could start with using toys and dirty talk.
      And then take the next step…

      Keep in mind: Cuckolding is a serious thing and turning things into reality is completely different to having the fantasy.

      Much love,
      Julia

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